I was reading Glamour magazine today (UK edition, Oct 2010) and one article stood out from the rest : it’s about the 12 dating mistakes the writer wished she knew when she was 21! The writer is now 31 and the stuffs she listed made me smile and go “holy-molly, this girl sounds like me!”
That made me realise that probably there are millions of “Me” around in the world, clueless and making the same mistakes over and over. I hope they read that article in Glamour and start CHANGING for God’s Sake! J
I won’t list the whole 12 things – go read the mag if u wanna know the full story. I shall only share the top learning that I WISH I had known 10 years ago:
If a guy likes u, he will tell you he likes you. He will be so into you that you will just know.
Yup, this is SO true. “He’s Not That Into You” – that magical book by Greg Bernhardt is the first time this fact got hammered into my head real hard. That book changed my life. Overnight. If you haven’t read it yet, then stop reading this blog NOW and go get it. RIGHT NOW! Yes, NOW! Thank you.
Do you want to know how I discovered the book?
Nope, nobody recommended it to me. It just happened to be one of those miraculous moments that you thought would only happen in movies:
It was the evening after the lunatic deranged call I made to my ex-primary-school-scandal at 5 a.m (Read my blog entry on August 29th,2010) after I found out he got engaged. I was @Kinokuniya, KLCC waiting for my bff for a cuppa coffee and goss session after work (I took EL that day as I was so broken-hearted by the engagement news). As I passed one of the shelves a book fell out and I stooped to pick it up. Yup, you’re right: it’s that book HJNTIY! What are the odds that it fell into my lap, literally?!
I read the title, the back cover and decided to get it to heal my broken heart. 2 years later I still have a broken heart but I guess without that book it could have been worse!
That book taught me that if a guy likes you he will pull all the stops to make you his.
Hmm….. if that’s the case then I must say there was ever only one guy who did that to me.
Oops that’s a lie. The truth is there were a few who was blatantly courting me,. However there was ever only one guy I LOVED who did that to me: my first ex.
He was so into me that even after we broke up he couldn’t let it go. He probably (and we strongly suspected that) even practiced black magic on me to make me go back to him (true story, but let’s save that for another day).
You know, until today despite everything, I know that he was into me, at least during our honeymoon period:
1. 1. He called to ask me out for coffee even though that time he was in UK and I was in KL (lol!) . Seriously some guys I know in KL can’t even ask me out for a cup of coffee because “too busy with work honey” etc (like Mr Movie Producer guy).
2. He was the last person to text me goodbye when I boarded the flight out of the country, and his was the first text I got when I switched on my hp once I landed. Every single time (we were in an LDR – long distance romance). Erm…. Mr Rock Star guy didn’t even realise I was back from my trip to Aus until I texted him and told him so. Boo-hoo.
3. He was complaining about us not spending enough time together and was always bugging me to make space in my calendar for him. ….. LOL. Actually that time when it happened I just moved to UK and was piling on weight (err 10kg extra to be exact!!) so I was desperately avoiding him in an attempt to crash diet! There was no way I was gonna let him see me fat! In the end we only met each other after 2 months of my diet and I lost 5 kg J ……… You know what, I try hard not to compare anyone with my ex but seriously, with his successors I realise that I am the one who is always looking for a space in their calendar – to steal a bit of “us” time. They are always too busy for me. Hmm…… but Mr Hotness did make some time for me when I was in Aus, more so than I thought. Maybe there’s hope there J
4. He just wanted me to himself: he always prefer to not “share” me when we go out, ie our “date days” are just the 2 of us, not a double date or going out in a group date. Any outings with our friends will be preceded or prelude with a private moment of just the 2 of us.
Hmm… sounds like the perfect guy huh? So the big question is, why did we break up? Why did I dump him? It’s a long story... let’s just say sometimes love alone isn’t enough, it doesn’t make the world goes round (cliché but true).
xoxo
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